A woman has revealed she can’t have sex or use a tampon after being diagnosed with a life-changing condition.
Kerry Morris, 28, from Stafford, began suffering from extreme stomach cramps and irregular and heavy bleeding during her periods from the age of 13.
She visited numerous gynaecologists and doctors and even had a laparoscopy operation in 2012 to try and find out what was causing the problems.
However, Kerry was repeatedly told that the excruciating pain she was feeling was all in her head.
She was convinced she had endometriosis – a long-term condition where tissue similar to the lining of the womb grows in other places, such as the ovaries and fallopian tube. But doctors ruled this out after extensive testing.
Kerry was even referred to a psychosexual therapist in 2014 while at University.
“I was told by doctors that I was making it up and that the pain was all in my head,” says Kerry.
“They were trying to train my brain to believe that every time I had sex I was not actually in physical pain.
“It was always really painful when having sex and it took a toll on my relationship as I didn’t want to try in case it hurt me.
“They said I would tense my body and that I was causing it. It lead to few arguments because he thought it was my giving myself pain that wasn’t actually there…
“Even though I was going through all of this therapy, my pain was very much still there.
“I had constant headaches, fatigue, and hotness and even fainted whilst in a cold shower – the pain was that unbearable.”
Kerry had another operation in 2017 to try and find out the cause of the problem and this time the surgeon finally found that she did actually have endometriosis.
Despite finally finding out the cause, Kerry has still has not found relief. She has been prescribed pain medication and birth control pills, but Kerry still experiences constant stomach cramps, headaches and fatigue.
Her endometriosis has had an impact on her relationship with current boyfriend Aaron, also 28.
She says sex is so painful that it can make her body shake for hours afterwards.
Despite this, Kerri says Aaron is incredibly understanding of her condition, something that has not always been the case in previous relationships.
“Unfortunately, the pain is still here and the operation never helped,” says Kerry.
“Whilst at work, it was a massively taboo thing and I was asked every day at work why I had to have a hot water bottle.
“It’s not nice to be in a meeting and be visibly frowned upon for being in pain.
“You get tired of having to explain why you are hunched doubled over your desk, why you have back and leg pain and why you are struggling to walk.”
Kerry added: “I’ve never had a boss who has been understanding. You don’t want to call in sick so it can really affect the jobs that you go for and your mental state.
“I even had an occasion at the doctors where someone got out a dictionary to look up what endometriosis was.
“It’s mad when you go in to see a gynaecologist and they don’t know what to suggest.”
Kerry had yet another operation at the start of 2020, which once again found that she had endometriosis, but as there is no cure, she still lives in pain.
She frequently posts on her Instagram page to raise awareness for her condition, which she thinks needs to be taught more widely in sex education classes to show younger girls and boys just how common and debilitating endometriosis can be.
“There are so many girls that suffer in silence and so many people that have no clue what it is,” says Kerry.
“Boys need to be made aware of what it is and that it’s not a girl’s fault. At first I was scared of opening up and telling my story, but there is a huge lack of awareness out there.
“If I can even help just one person, that’s good enough for me.”
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