Sexpert explains difference between BDSM and kinky sex after experimenting herself


A sexpert has explained difference between BDSM and kinky sex after opening up on her experiences in the industry.

Author and sexologist Valerie Tasso has started looking into the world of BDSM and kinky sex 2004, when she began writing a book about “erotic minorities” – e.g. all of the erotics which aren’t conventional.

Intrigued by bondage, dominance and submission, Valerie decided to try it out herself.

And she’s never looked back since.

She has now opened up about BDSM and kinky sex as she explained what makes them different.

Chatting exclusively to Daily Star, Valerie explained BDSM doesn’t always have to be kinky.



The expert has tried out unconventional sex herself

She said: “You can be kinky. A lot of people are very kinky nowadays as it’s very fashionable right now.

“Kinky sex is breaking with your sexual routine – it’s not conventional.

“Whereas BDSM is more strict and has strict rules, kinky sex is more flexible.”

Valerie had some warnings for those who want to try unconventional sex though.

She said those who want to enter into the kinky/BDSM scene need to be mature, sexually speaking.



Sexpert Valerie Tasso poses for a photo
Valerie writes books on sex and the world of BDSM

Valerie explained: “You need to know what you want.

“Set some boundaries and make a list of fantasies, then see if you want to make them real or not.”

Valerie admitted that a lot of young people enter the scene without preparing or doing much research, which she recommends to avoid.

She also said you must trust who you practice BDSM or kinky sex with.

Valerie previously opened up to Daily Star about how she exactly got into the BDSM scene.



Sexy couple at night in bed, woman with lace eye cover
She says BDSM has strict rules

She revealed: “I’m a very curious person, like to speak from my own experience, and I like to experiment as far as my sexuality is concerned.

“So I got in touch with some BDSM clubs in Barcelona and I made a lot of friends, mostly women who were dominant.

“I went with one of them to a BDSM club in Prague – Other World Kingdom. For me it was incredible, it was an amazing experience.”

She said only took notes at first and didn’t participate because he felt like a “newbie”, however she said that soon changed.

She continued: “I started to play myself. I came back to Other World Kingdom as a dominatrix and started to play with my own partner.

“He was a bit annoyed at the beginning – he asked me if I wanted to do it for my book or because I liked it. I said both!”

“I published a book not only about BDSM, but about other erotic practices too and it had a lot of success.”

You can find Valerie Tasso’s books on Amazon.

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