Sexpert admits she ‘hysterically cried’ after first orgasm with a lesbian partner


A sexpert has admitted she “hysterically cried” after her first orgasm with her lesbian partner.

Nadia Bokody, 34, said – like a lot of women – she often finds it hard to relax in the bedroom.

That’s why when she experienced her first orgasm with her current female partner, she was overcome with emotion.

Writing for news.com.au, she said: “I’m crying hysterically in front of a woman I just had sex with.

“We’re still locked in a naked embrace when the tears start escaping from my eyes like kids flooding the school gate at 3pm.

“She looks understandably freaked out. I’m having a visceral reaction to a very unfamiliar experience – which is that I just had my first orgasm with her.”



Nadia says she “hysterically cried” after her first orgasm with her lesbian partner

Nadia said that although she writes about sex for a living, she still has the “same insecurities that plague most women in the bedroom”.

She explained: “Each time I have sex with a new partner, I begin a tedious process of silent sexual self-flagellation that makes my orgasm a guaranteed impossibility.”

Nadia said that she couldn’t orgasm at all with her previous partner – even though the sex was “revelatory” as she couldn’t let herself go around her.



Sexpert Nadia Bokody poses on a bed
The sexpert admits she still has the “same insecurities that plague most women in the bedroom”

She explained: “Perhaps because, on some intuitive level, I knew her heart wasn’t completely in the relationship.

“Or maybe because I was so utterly infatuated with her, I found myself endlessly drawn to impress her.”

Despite this, she admits having orgasms with people who she’s been emotionally uninvested in as the “stakes are low”.

Nadia admitted this is a problem for many women, saying: “Unfortunately, getting out of our heads is easier said than done, especially for women. After all, we spend most of our lives being conditioned to stay switched on for the comfort of others.”

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However, she said she’s now learned that women need to let go of the role “they are taught” of pleasing others to get the deepest pleasure of orgasm.

She concluded: “I didn’t ascertain that through research, or by writing about sex; but by being a woman who still fears what it means to let go, but fights the fear and does it anyway.”

Nadia is known for writing about her relationships and giving advice.

She recently warned women that they shouldn’t get married as it “overwhelmingly benefits men”.

On Instagram, Nadia pointed out that many women take on more domestic jobs when moving in with male partners.

She also believes women are expected to put in most work raising children while juggling their careers at the same time.





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