Mum ditched sex for months after giving birth as partner’s penis ‘was like cheese grater’


New mum Chessie King has opened up about her sex life after giving birth by caesarean.

The 28-year-old influencer welcomed daughter Auraelia, who she sweetly dubs “Rae”, back in June alongside her partner Mathew.

And it seems like the parents haven’t been getting very busy in the sheets since, according to Chessie.

The social media star took to her Instagram page this week to share an open and frank post about her and Mathew’s sex life after the birth.

Addressing her 798,000 followers, she wrote: “LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX (after a) BABY⁣.

“On the day of my caesarean, before we’d even met Auraelia, the midwifes asked us what contraception we were planning to use…⁣



She admitted that they didn’t have sex for 11 weeks

“For the first 6 weeks, sex was number 123 on my list of 124 things. I couldn’t even change my own giant pads myself let alone contort my sawn-in-half body into any page of the karma sutra.⁣”

“We tried at 7 weeks, the day after I got ‘my six week sex sign off’ & I was absolutely not ready.

“There’s nothing more encouraging than hearing “ouuuuch, your willy feels like a cheese grater’⁣ (I had apparently bought condoms that were pretending to be hedgehogs – ribbed)

“We tried again at 8 weeks, it still felt like I’d been glued shut so Mat bought a neon yellow bottle of ‘ylang ylang massage lube’ which did nothing but make the room smell nice.



Chessie King with baby Auraelia
Chessie and Mathew welcomed daughter Auraelia back in June



Chessie King poses in a bikini
The influencer is known for her frank and honest posts

“Then we tried at 10 weeks & Hugo decided to take a front row seat, Rae woke up to cheer us on in her crib a metre away 3 minutes in.

“So, 4th time lucky, at 11 weeks we finally managed something that felt as close to sex as possible & here’s a few things that we learnt!⁣”

“Laughing really helps, talking to each other throughout/cheering each other on helps.⁣

“Pretending it’s the first time you’ve ever had sex with each other helps.⁣ Lube helps.⁣ Going super slow helps.⁣

“Silky soft ultra thin condoms help (stay away from ribbed hedgehogs).⁣ Time really helps.⁣ Experimenting with basic positions then levelling up to spicy ones when you’re ready helps.⁣ Please share yours.

Fans were loving the honest post, with it racking up more than 51,000 likes.

One person replied: “Definitely communication, slow and take the pressure off losing your drive postpartum is totally normal. So talking to your partner about it will really help.”

While another added: “Having support from your spouse or partner really helps. Just to feel good about the situation!”

Some fellow new mothers also thanked Chessie for the warning, as one said: “Ok this is definitely food for thought! 4 weeks post section and I’ve naively assumed because baby exited through the roof all will be normal when it eventually comes to having sex again (you know when I’m less exhausted and given sign off) I hadn’t even thought about being prepared for it! Thank you for sharing so openly.”

Chessie said she shared the post as she asked on her Instagram story if people felt like there was enough conversation around sex after a caesarean and 97% said no.

As well as the comments, her and Mathew also shared some adorable photos of themselves hugging and larking around with a melon.

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